The nice, slow lovemaking where all you do is focus on your sensations, is the new mantra to renew your sex life as you rediscover each other.
Sensate-focused sex exercises involve a series of
behavioral practices, which offer variety and increased personal awareness
through basic touch.Originally developed by sex researchers Drs. William
Masters and Virginia Johnson, sensate focus exercises involve each partner
paying increased attention to their own sen
sations when stimulated.
sations when stimulated.
Particularly for couples in sex therapy, the
exercises have helped lovers to overcome issues like performance anxiety, rapid
ejaculation, lack of orgasm and erectile dysfunction. The benefits of sensate
focus include, discovering new types of touch, spine-tingling sensations,
increased comfort with physical intimacy, better awareness of your lover's
body, as well as your own.
Apart from these, going for such exercises can help couples to strengthen
their relationship, and also guarantees no fear of failure, better sex
communication, and heightened sexual excitement.
With such non-demands and pleasuring exercises, couples do not make sex
goal-oriented, instead, they enjoy the experience of being with one another,
touching and feeling each other's bodies.
These highly structured touch activities are about enjoying physical
contact to the fullest without trying to arouse each other and should not be
mistaken as a form of foreplay, because it is the main experience in itself.Done
in several stages over time, they are tailor-made to a couple's specific issues
when working with a sex therapist, reports Fox News.
Couples in therapy are
usually advised to abstain from having intercourse while focusing on the
physical sensations triggered during sensate play.This not only alleviates
anxiety and mental distractions that lead to sexual difficulties, but also
offer up a greater awareness of the wide range of stimuli that encompass all of
the senses.
The rules for sensate focus sex are:
- Breasts and genitals are off limits for the first few sessions.
- Verbal feedback is limited unless you're uncomfortable or in pain.
- Do not try to elicit sexual response (but don't sweat it if it happens).
- After each session, be sure to process the experience.
When pursuing sensate focus exercises, set aside at least 60 uninterrupted
minutes in a warm bedroom and one may even enhance the setting with soothing
music and candles. If it helps, take a bath (or anything else that relaxes
you). Take your time, over several "dates," and finally get on with
the sessions.
Sensate focus sex could establish new ways of relating to each
other and partners may find themselves having some of the best sex of their
lives. by: www.mid-day.com
